Updated: Aug 5, 2020
What is resilience? The capacity or ability to recover quickly or spring back from difficulties, toughness.
This is my journey to becoming bulletproof.
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A very wise woman told me that when we're bobbing along smoothly in life you don't learn anything, it's when the road gets rocky we learn and grow. That's when life moulds us, gives us personality. She couldn't be more right but my thoughts turn to how we deal with that and come out stronger on the other side. How to feel challenged rather than defeated and how to feel determined instead of deflated. You'll be told things like 'perk up' or 'things will get better' and all you can think is when? I've been there and it's just when you think things can't get worse that they do! I figure if it's not what you want, it's not the end.
On the other hand, when is the end? If you're an ambitious person and you're fighting and working toward a goal, and then reach that goal, is that where it stops? Of course not, that's when the uphill struggle starts again. Yes you can bookend journeys and chapters in your life with achievements or goals but there can't be an end. Maybe that's a way of putting a current difficult situation into perspective, by taking a step back and thinking of it as just one hurdle out of many in a race.
Some steps I've taken to 'get me through':
1. Find what motivates you. This can be one of the most difficult things to find but you have to try everything no matter what you think may work for you as a person, if it hasn't worked so far, it's not working. Now I'm lucky enough to have a person in my life to whom I owe all of my motivation, self belief and courage to. If you're lucky enough to have this then absorb all you can from them, but without depending on them.
2. Motivational videos/speakers are also a great thing to watch/listen to. People say smiling and yawning is infectious and it's true it's hard not to do either if someone throws one in your direction. I believe it's the same with motivation, if you surround yourself with negativity that's what you'll reap. If you surround yourself with positivity, determination and motivation, it will rub off on you.
3. Never underestimate a good journal. Now I've never kept a journal for more than a couple of days but I fully intend to keep this one up. Someone close to me bought me a gift of a journal full of inspiring words from all the greats to read, make notes in and reflect on. I always benefit from writing things down, even with all the technology today I still prefer to keep a diary to write appointments in or hand write to-do lists, I love lists!
Those are things I've implemented so far and I hope you'll try them. In Part 2 I'll be sharing some of the advice I've taken from the people who motivate me and talking about creating a vision board for dreams and goals.
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